Voddie Baucham Jr, in Family Shepherds: Calling and Equipping Men to Lead their Homes (Wheaton, Ill.: Crossway, 2011), p.61:
"First, the eschatological nature of the gospel means we do not view our families as ends in themselves. Family shepherds are not men working to shape perfect families that will meet all their earthly needs. On the contrary, we know that Christ alone can meet our ultimate needs, and that he will fully do so only at the end of this present age. We also know that our family ties are temporal, and it's our ties to the body of Christ that matters eternally. Hence, our greatest desire is to lead our families to the feet of Christ, not to our own.
Second, the eschatological nature of the gospel means we do not hold our wives and children to unreasonable standards. We're all fallen creatures. Perfection is a hope we hold out for the age to come. In the meantime, we enjoy progressive sanctification while we praise God for making us more Christlike from day to day. This means we must not expect from our wives and children that which will be supplied only in the age to come."
(my underlining)
