Baucham Jr., Family Shepherds, p.92:
"When they identify that which defines and drives them, most men in our culture default to their careers. This is what determines where and when they move their families, how far they live away from extended family, the kind of church they attend (and how frequently), the lifestyle they enjoy, and the level of involvement they have in the discipleship of their children.
So a seismic shift is represented by changing the focus from one that says, "I'm a lawyer, and that defines the way my family is shaped," to one that says, "My wife and I entered a covenant relationship designed to bring forth, train, and launch a generation of godly offspring, and that's going to direct all the rest of my decisions." That isn't to say men should slack off at work. It is, however, to say that they should not slack off at home (something we almost never hear). This is a radical change of perspective, but one that I believe is warranted."
Note to self: what do I normally ask men at church about? 1. How are things at work? or 2. How are things at home with your wife and kids? Answer: pretty much always number 1. I am part of the problem...
